You never had to prove them wrong


When you grow up with stigma, people tell you a lot of well-meaning things that actually cause problems. When you face people treating you like you’re less of a person, someone will often say something like:

  • "You’ll prove them all wrong some day".
  • "It’s ok. You’ll show them. You’ll prove that you’re better than they ever could have imagined."

And then, when you accomplish things, it often becomes, “Well, you proved them wrong, didn’t you?”

People who say this often mean well, but this is a form of victim-blaming, and it can hurt people who believe it really badly. The truth is:
You didn’t prove them wrong. You never had to prove them wrong. They were already wrong.
Prejudice is not something you have to earn your way out of. Dehumanization isn’t your fault. You don’t have to prove that you are human in order to be human. You don’t have to have amazing accomplishments in order to prove that you have worth. Everyone has worth. People who don’t recognize yours have always been wrong.
You didn’t prove them wrong. They were already wrong. About you, and about everyone else too.
You might have to fight to be seen as a person. You might have to fight for your life and your safety and for basic respect. That’s a fight you may or may not win. It’s a fight that, no matter how hard you try or how good you are, you will never win all the way. There will still be those who hate you and see you as subhuman.
But you can be ok, anyway. You’re ok. You’re whole. You deserve better. It’s not your fault they don’t see it. It’s theirs.
You have always been a full person, fully deserving of respect and equal treatment. People who treat you as a lesser being have always been wrong.
Knowing that helps.

I just saw someone who claimed to be from Switzerland proclaim that Switzerland isn’t in Europe. And it’s like, dude… If you’re going to pretend to be from another country, at least have some idea of what continent it’s on.







These are all extremely fair points

the first one especially speaks to me on a spiritual level

the last one is the most true shit ever

boys get the good shit

girls get “sexy ___”

whats next “sexy object”

because that’s what people are seeing girls as

Windmill slam reblog

But sometimes you want that sexy powerful character so girls can be like “hell fucking yeah she’s hot and can kick ass and I can do the same” like wonder woman

you can be sexy and powerful without being unrealistic

Amen. The only advantage I can see to so many of these comic book superheroine outfits is that if someone (from anywhere on the gender spectrum) came after me in real life wearing something like that, I’d probably fall down laughing, thus giving them a free shot.

(I say this not just as a lifelong comics fan, but also as a military veteran, a lifelong martial artist, an author who writes the occasional bad-ass female hero, and a guy who—unfortunately—had to start street-fighting at age seven. I think that combination qualifies me to call my opinion an informed, and possibly even semi-professional one.)

And yes, as a matter of fact, it is perfectly possible to be sexy while being clothed and posed realistically (within the context of the fantasy world in which they exist, of course).

Just to give a few examples—Katee Sackhoff as Starbuck, Michelle Rodriguez in pretty much anything, Black Widow (both Scarlett Johannson’s movie version and the comic version), the new Captain Marvel, and Gina Torres as Zoë in “Firefly.” I’d throw in Summer Glau’s Firefly character, River, as well. Again, those are just a few. All sexy, and all bad-asses.

So yeah—No excuses.







what if we’re all characters in a book


guys why isn’t everyone reblogging this it’s a scientific breakthrough

and when you’ve had a sense that you’ve been through a certain day or moment before, it’s cuz the author is re-writing the same part of the story, just with better context


Dude, my author fucking sucks. 

They’re on to us, guys. Our characters are coming for us, and they’re not happy. Quick, write happy endings for everyone!